My mother told me in the beginning of Bo and I’s marriage that the 2nd year of her marriage was the toughest. And for us, I think that has held true. We went through so much this year. From start to finish, it has been a succession of challenges. Somethings that were personal and kept private, and other things that we shared publicly. We have found that transparency and authenticity are key for our life, and in sharing our life we embrace it. Marriage and love is a choice for us, not a feeling as we have come to learn. We’ve chosen to love one another. We aren’t alone in our struggles, it is a fact that marriage is hard. I’m going to assume that any married couple would say it’s not easy, and especially at first. But you know, without the struggle we lose the chance to really enjoy those amazingly perfect days. There are really good adventures to share, and we have a lot of good days, and some are documented and some are not. I, Heather, remind Bo that it doesn’t take a lot to make this girl happy. Simplicity is the key.
We are learning to laugh through those ridiculous situations, and realize that we love each other and that we can’t control every element of life as it happens. So, as we embark on our fourth year together as husband and wife, we hope to learn from the past and blossom into the people we want to be for ourselves and each other.
These are the photos we took to document our Third year together. The First year and second year here and here. We try to stick with the same aesthetic, color and of course the location is where we were married 3 years ago!
Very happy anniversary to you two! You are -from what I can tell- an amazing couple!
Thank you!! We think highly of you two as well! Family love!
So sweet. 3 cheers for 3 years!
Hooray!
Well put! It’s hard to discuss the difficulties of marriage without sounding negative, but you did it well. I roll my eyes when unmarried people say marriage should be easy and fun all the time. When you’re married you actually share your lives–that’s big! It comes with occasional struggles. Realizing those difficulties and working on them is what makes the marriage healthy–not ignoring them altogether.
I love the last picture, Heather. You look like Mary Lennox!
I’ll take it! I do love The Secret Garden! Oh, it is quite funny when people who aren’t married have a mental list of expectations for marriage. It really is an unpredictable journey, and one that has to be taken one day at a time. I think the biggest lesson to be learned is about being realistic, patient and honest about what marriage is (and what it can be!) and I know we are learning as we go!