A letter from us to you, the wider world.
How do you imagine your life? Is it now what it should be, could be? Has it changed from last week, last year, last month the last ten years? There is a lot of voices, blogs, rss/news/tweet-tweet feeds, static noise around us, filling up our heads with so many things that they say we need in our lives. We need this, we so want that? But what do we really need? Inspiration, creativity fulfilled, joy overflowing, a new definition of success? We need not the (logical) meaning of life, we need a real life…one that eclipses that of the movies and the songbook. We need honesty, with all its joys and pains. Though we love style & fashion and pretty things..but those things don’t compose our life all of the time. Here’s a peek inside the curtains of life house and what’s going on in and around our life.
The truth of the matter is that tonight is the eve of Heather and I meeting for the very first time. We would both say now that we had no idea what a full color spectrum of experiences we would encounter on this journey these three years later. Life is a challenge. Mainly, because the culture is counter to our emotional and spiritual DNA. We, like any other two human beings, are made for connection, companionship and community with like minded souls. Our culture is diametrically opposed to this idea of…well, love. As we fell in love, we began to realize that the world makes living out a life of love difficult. Lately, the frustration creeps in the gaps and seems of our conversations.
It is hard to find friends. It is hard to let your guard down when so many situations and environments have fallen to dust in our hands. We crave crave crave friends, people who complement our emphasis on our faith and our pursuit of deep family bonds. This seems to be something not so easily obtained when two have become one. You are perceived in new and different and oft-times confusing (to us at least) ways. Family relationships grapple with new roles and lines of connection. And new friends come alongside as much as they can, which is something we are grateful for. Old friends from the two lives previous take new shapes and forms with varying closeness and distance. And it takes work, a grace and concentration of will to be kind and love when you are still searching for bonds that will carry us through the days ahead.
We have begun the search in earnest for a church home as we work out the details of our passions and life’s work as a couple. Moving from one place so that you can seek and grow and bond in new ways is exhausting on a level, but the weeks and months ahead are very important to the way in which the flow of our life will take us, sustain us. We need that grounding of knowing what our spiritual DNA is and how it informs and shapes our every day life. We need both the connection and the release. And that, it seems is what peace is all about.
Have you ever wanted something so bad, it begins to creep into every thought and dream? Dreams are funny like that…they follow you, asking to be fulfilled. Starting a business is a lot like that. It begins to gently tap you on the metaphorical shoulder when you haven’t touched the concept or execution for a few days or a week. You know you have to do…to see it through and to be more than you are. It feels like the fulfillment of our business concept is moving in slow motion. The details need constant attention and development, it sometimes feels like we are out to sea. But I think that we are learning that with patience and dedication, and the Grace of God we will make it through.
Looking around the world and even our life, we talk often about what it means to be real. Writing to you in this manner is not about complaints or compliments, cheers or jeers or attention. It is about saying, hey…we are all citizens of this world, this creation. You, I, her, he, she, us, them and every one else and I know these two people want to do a better part to be a little more connected. Connected to making our world a little more loving and kind, to surprise with a wave, a gift or an unexpected smile. To create a business that gives back while giving us so much more, and to build a life on terms not driven to excess or mediocrity.
To be more than we ever were apart and even more than we are now. To live a real life.
love with all our hearts,
Bo and Heather Liles
(aka these lostindrawers)